Portals to the dead

Tombstones or the grave itself are great ways to connect to our loved ones. The grave and the tombstone act as portals to the other side. You can use anything which your loved one would have been tied to in this life. Even though those who have passed on are not in any pain, their ties to their old lives are still there just as we know we are tied even now to our past lives. So a favorite item can also be used or a urn or in some cases a car they were in love with can be used as portals to connect to them.
You might feel their energy with the items when you hold them. A lot of people are drawn to grave sites for this reason. A husband might visit his wife after she has passed on until he dies. He knows she isn't there but will use words or phrases like 'I feel close to her when I'm there' or 'its like talking to her still'. Sometimes you hear things like 'I swear he/she is still hanging out in that old car of his' or 'sometimes I pick up his watch and I get these pictures of him'
Now sometimes their spirit is actually with us and in the room and pictures/feelings are great ways to know they are there with us. But most times at cemeteries and even at our houses, this isn't the case. What you are actually doing is connecting to the other side or to the other plane depending on your view point of the afterlife. Connecting like a medium is done when the loved one connects on purpose to the medium. Connecting to our loved ones spirit through items and places is done by us and not our loved ones. *Don't worry they don't mind us bothering them* Both are truly connecting to spirits and usually a medium will let you know if the spirit is in the room or the spirit is connecting from the other side. Both kinds of connection bring up pictures, feelings and random thoughts. Usually if the spirit is in the room itself, you may see the spirit in form, you might have the a cobweb feeling or you might see things move. Spirit in a room requires the spirit to either pass back over or not to have passed to start with. Realize even if you connect to the other side, they are as alive as you and there are beliefs that the other planes exist at the same time and space as ours so it is pretty close to your loved one in a room. The only difference would be if the loved one was in your plane, they cross over to this plane which can take a lot of energy on your part and theirs.
The Portals as I like to refer to them are the easiest ways to connect. Your loved one is likely to be tied to the item, place or grave even if not in a physical sense.
So remember the next time you visit grandma, your wife or anyone you love at their grave, you can actually talk to them and they can actually hear us.

I've known this part for years and didn't realize I did until I started to learn more about being a medium. If you have any questions, feel free to email me at anovelescape@yahoo.com or post it on here. Our loved ones are a lot easier to connect to and they really are not that far away. :)

Your Psychic Friend,
Terra Graves